Last night me and the Bear were invited to two parties and neither of us were in the mood to drink, thus we went to the first one for a couple of hours and drank alcoholfree cider. I’m pretty talkative in my sober, everyday state of mind so it wasn’t really a problem but I found it was hard to find things to talk about or discussions for me to be part of. I’m finding that I have less and less stuff that I like to share with people face-to-face. Or rather, that I’m so self-involved that I can’t imagine it being interesting. I miss talking to people with the same background as I have. My boarding school friends whom I miss enormously… quite simply, other people who don’t mind talking about themselves!
I know it’s not the swedish way to share more than neccessary. Maybe that’s why alkohol is so popular here. I should add though, so there’s wont be any missunderstandings, that it was a very pleasant and calm get together that I think I would have utterly enjoyed if I had been more relaxed.
After a couple of hours there we moved on to party #2 where the partying had gone overboard. There we dropped of the present to a very happy hostess and then bicycled homewards.
As a whole, I enjoyed being sober, but I didn’t enjoy feeling like the bore. Although, not having the possibilty of running out to the balcony to have a cigarette every now and then to give me the chance totalk new people (even if it would just be an “excuse me, could I get through”) and give my restless soul some movement and a break between discussions, was, I think the hardest part.
It’s a new world for me to learn to handle! New habits to internalise after having relied on alcohol and cigarettes for so long. (note: I don’t want to become a soberist, I just want to teach my mind not to over think situations just because I don’t have alcohol in my system.)
The fact that I felt the way I did, proved to me that I needed to get used to not having alcohol in my system at these kinds of events, more than I thought. My only worry is that I’ll stop being invited in the process of getting comfortable in my own sober skin.
Sweet kisses to all!
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